An except from 'A Stepmom's Say", a blog I read frequently. I cannot say this any better than this writer.

While History provides many examples of loving, involved, non-biological “parents”, the reality is that these people never get their due. To be sure, when they fail miserably at taking care of someone else’s children, this fact is paraded with as much publicity as can be mustered, but when a stepparent is truly good at what they do, we hear nothing of it.

And maybe that is as it should be.

As I try to find my place in this whole messy business, I realize that when it comes to Stepsons, I am supposed to be the shadow—the thing that is always there but rarely noticed. The thing that is so assumed to always be there that it is many times forgotten. Most days I am perfectly happy with this role, but other days I want to scream: “What about me?!!”

But it isn’t really about me, is it?